This is one of those stories that’s probably harder to tell than to hear.  Or, in this case, harder to write than to read. I’ve never spoken publicly about it in any kind of detail, because these things carry a lot of shame. We, as targets of the harassment, are shocked, hurt, scared and feel ashamed. That this is happening to us.

We feel that we must have done something to trigger the behaviour.

We feel like it’s our fault this is happening to us.

And of course that’s not true. The stalker’s personality structure is fractured – it’s all about them, nothing to do with us. But that can be very difficult to appreciate as you are being targeted and stalked. Continue reading →